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Why take care of yourself when other people are so good at it?
“This engaging, beautifully crafted, tragic and hilarious memoir is the perfect read for anyone who’s cosmically linked to an addict or alcoholic of any gender, ethnicity or age and who cannot understand why in the hell they ‘just don’t stop.’ It’s also a great read; I couldn’t put it down.” — Kathryn Connell Christy, Documentary Writer/Producer,
Lean On You
by Gretchen Havens
Winner, Writers’ League of Texas Mozelle Memoir Contest
Faster than you can say, “Make mine a double,” Gretchen and Joe, both alcoholics, fall in love in a Southern California mental hospital. As their relationship blossoms, so does Gretchen’s reliance on Joe, a dependency that closely resembles her abnormal attachment to her well-heeled parents. In fact, she is as addicted to being rescued—by doctors, therapists, and loved ones—as she is to using drugs and alcohol.
Eventually, Gretchen’s life becomes so messy that even her doting parents retreat. Joe, whom she has married, continues to dutifully hide her car keys when she’s looped, and track down hospitals where she can detox. But finally, when a catastrophe ends his role as her savior, Gretchen is forced to lean into herself for the strength to salvage her life.
In her story of love and transformation, Gretchen Havens relates her fierce journey to independence, a tale that reaches far beyond the search for redemption from alcohol and drugs. Lean on You is a narrative of hard-fought individuation, the evolution of an aimless young woman to an aware adult, told in a voice that sings with humor, humanity, and hope.
“Amazing book! Gretchen Havens slapped my face, rattled my cage and pulled my chain while tickling my funny bone and strumming at my heart strings.”
— Bo Johnson, Author of Half Crazy Ain’t Good Enough
“I kept wanting to read the next page and the next, to see who was still standing, and who hit the deck. It was like traveling the fast lane on steroids. Sometimes I would pause after reading one of Havens’s life episodes and literally feel exhausted.”
— Roger Kotila, Ph.D., Psychologist
“By turns poignant and wickedly funny, Havens’ journey from self-destruction to self-reliance is an addiction in itself. The reader will find her account nearly impossible to put down.”
— Marian Szczepanski, Author of Playing St. Barbara
“The scenes! So clear and dynamic. Definitely the author’s gift. There is also a wonderful clarity about her voice, a naiveté that is an intrinsic part of her style and humor. Very winning, it draws one in, safely.”
— Iris Stockbridge, Ph.D., Retired Professor of English, Houston Community College
“Havens holds back no secrets. Through letters, remembered conversations, and a unique author’s voice, she offers a look behind the scenes of a life most of us hope we’ll never live. She also offers encouragement to anyone caught in the disease.”
— Carolyn Dahl, Author of Natural Impressions, Co-Author of The Painted Door Opened
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